Does Single Equal Lonely?

 

Does Single Equal Lonely?

March 2014

Why do people automatically think that you’re lonely if you’re single? These same people immediately try to fix you up with old broke down Joe, who has no hair, a missing tooth and is jobless.  They figure someone is better than no one.  What in the world!!! Y’all heard the saying “I can do bad all by myself!!”

Well let’s explore this idea that single equals lonely.  I have researched myths about being single.  First we are going to look at it through biblical eyes, since you know I’m on my journey to becoming a better Christian.  According to www.bible.org,

10 Myths about being single:

1.     All singles, especially women, want to get married

2.     Single men are irresponsible

3.     Singles are sexually frustrated

4.     Singles are wild swingers

5.     Finding the “right” person will solve all your problems

6.     Marriage is God’s highest calling

7.     All single adults are lonely

8.     Singles are basically selfish

9.     Only a large church can offer something for singles

10. Single adults don’t understand family life.

Interesting right?  Now for the myths about being single according to the secular world:

According to psychologytoday.com:

1.     That you are interested in just one thing – getting coupled

2.     There is a dark aura around you – you are lonely and your life is tragic

3.     If you get married you will be healthier and you will live longer

4.     Everything is always about you

5.     Your work won’t love you back and for women your eggs will dry up

6.     For men- you are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and scary criminals

7.     Single parents- Kids are doomed

8.     You’re incomplete

9.     You will grow old alone and you will die alone

10.  That couples get all the breaks like perks, deals on insurance, vacations gym memberships and it’s the single people who pay full price that subsidize this.

There’ s several overlaps but the general consensus is single people are lonely, angry, unhealthy miserable human beings who’s only goal in life is to get married so they can be happy. With all of these misconceptions about being single it’s no wonder that there’s some people out there who try to get hitched by hook or crook.  Not so     !!!!!!!! 

My truths:

1.     If you love yourself and living the life you want you are never alone

2.     You are happiest when you are true to yourself – single or hitched

3.     Singleness is a state of mind.  It’s what you make it

4.     Being single allows you time to find your true self

5.     Allows you to enjoy life uninhibited

6.     True joy is knowing who you are and that you are complete all by yourself

7.     Alone equals serenity

8.     Enjoy the journey if you are meant to have a mate he or she will find you

9.     Freedom is a good thing

10. God loves you single or coupled

Being single is not the end of the world.  So enjoy your single journey, be all that you can be.  That way when your mate shows up he or she will have a lot to discover about you.  You won’t be boring.  You will be interesting and unique to your mate, which is sexy by the way!  Until next time…..

Enjoy the journey.

Feel free to check out my books and past blogs at www.janicebrantle.com or http://gloriouslifeofthefabulouslysingle.blogspot.com/

Reference:

Bible.org: 10 myths about being single

www.psychologytoday.com  10 myths about being single people: