Double Double!

       

            Ok it’s a brand new year! Yay 2013 is dead and buried!  Hallelujah!  I don’t know about y’all but I had a funeral for my 2013 and I am glad it is dead and gone.  So I told myself that 2014 will be my year!  It was confirmed by my pastor who declared that this is the year of the double double – meaning the year that what has been taken from you will return to you in quadruple portions!  So with that I want my double double portion!

            I have a new attitude of expectancy and a new drive to succeed but wait um I’m still single.   So when did “single” become a dirty word to women over 30 who are still living in the land of manlessness? I had to have a talk with myself, you know that positive self talk we’re supposed to have every now and again. I said to myself, “self, it’s ok that you are still single.  I love my singleness.  Ah I think?!” It’s hard to walk in your singleness when every magazine, news story, social media site tells you that you are a big fat looser when you’re single!  Now it may not be as bad for men, and if I’m wrong men please chime in and set me straight but for women being single is like have a death sentence hanging over your head. With 112 million unmarried people over the age of 18 in the United States, that’s 47% if you like percentages, I don’t know why being single is such a big issue!

Here’s a snippet of what we single people have to look forward to every day, all day long:

According to “Online Dating Magazine there are approximately 2,500 online dating sites in the United States and more that 5,000 world wide. Ah yeah I would have to agree.  There’s match.com, chemistry.com, eharmony.com, okcupid, plenty of fish, black people meet.  I yi yi the list goes on and on. 

Then there’s the dreaded conversations every single person has during the holidays and dreads by the way but thus has to endure.  You know that conversation, the one that starts with something like this:

“So you still single eh?” then you give them the look, the one that says please shut up ever so politely but the person never takes the hint. So you say

“Why yes I am!”  With an exclamation point like you’re really confident in your singleness! Then they say something really stupid like “So you like being single, or you’re really into your career, or you afraid of commitment” or any other stupid insensitive thing… Which sets you to thinking, “Maybe something is wrong with me”.  Then you go down this destructive path of finding a mate by any means necessary.  About halfway through the next year you realize being single is not so bad until you get back to the holiday season again and the cycle continues. 

So this year I’m getting off that roller coaster!  I’m going to embrace my singleness and have some fun with it and I’m taking you with me. This year’s blog is going to be dedicated to the glorious life of the fabulously single. We are going to explore what makes being single great.  I will have guess bloggers who are single sharing what’s fabulous in their lives so you all can get an idea of what it truly means to be single and how you can love being single while God has you by yourself. Oh and by the way I will probably share with you a funny story from time to time about my wonderful dating life!!  So if you’re with me say a hearty Hell Yeah and let’s start enjoying the journey!  Until next time!

Please feel free to leave your comments, email me your comments and share the blog with your friends, family co-workers etc…. I would love to hear some of your stories about being single especially from the men! You can reach me at:

www.janicebrantle.com

jlbrantle@yahoo.com