He Is…
April 27, 2014
I know all of you
have heard the echo’s of how there’s no good men out there and how all of them
are dogs. And yes just recently I had a
conversation with a young man that I hadn’t seen in a while who came to town
and almost made me believe those statements were true. He wanted to get together and catch up. I was like sure no problem. He was here at a convention and apparently
working the convention. He invited me to
be his guest at one of their after parties.
Unbeknown to me, he was working the event. But I still had fun. So the next day I contacted him to see if he
would like to get together and just chat to catch up since we hadn’t had a
chance to talk. I wanted to get to know him a little bit before he left the
city. It was a text conversation that
went something like this:
Me: Hey let’s try to get together
before you go. When do you leave?
Him: When what time where?
Me:
I’m heading to church. After
that?
Him: Well I have to help my mother pack later? Can
we meet this morning?
Me: Sure, we could grab breakfast
or a cup a coffee before I go to church.
Him: It would help me on time if
you came to the hotel, you’re already up and
I have to pack.
Me: No problem
Him: Room 5026
Me: Leaving now, throw on some
clothes and meet me in the lobby.
Him: OMG, you’re being difficult
right now. If you don’t feel comfy dear, please just go to church, you’re
making it harder than it has to be.
Me: No I don’t feel comfortable
being in your room. What’s wrong with
just grabbing a cup of coffee in the lobby? But that’s cool I’ll head to
church. Have a safe trip back.
Him: Because all my frat is gonna
be all down there…
Me: I understand that but I just
don’t want to be in your room
Him: My room is where there will be no outsiders…
nevermind… I see you didn’t want to know me the person.
Me: Well you didn’t want to leave
the hotel & you couldn’t meet me later so I’ve ran out of options.
Him: You could have just come here
as stated… you opted out
Me: you told me to forget it and go
to church
Him: I’m just a private person and I don’t want
all my frat in my business
Me: I understand. I would just like
to meet without being in a hotel room. Sorry I’m just a little old fashioned
like that.
Him: That’s just ridiculous… Old
fashioned is just plain old… it’s 2014 plus were not strangers like that no
biggie I just see your difficult and stuck in the 1950
Me: I really don’t know you that
well and I see that you’re not the type of person who really wants to make a
woman feel comfortable. So sweetie have
a nice life….
Now
after an exchange like that, one would think that all men are dogs
and I would have to agree, that man
is a dog. No real man who cared about a woman
would invite her to a hotel room to talk! Really did he think I fell off the
turnip truck yesterday! But I’m digressing.
This blog is a tribute to all the good men out there who’s holding it
down. Who’s taking care of their families, communities and society as a whole.
I will continue to
say don’t believe the hype that there are no more good men left, especially
good African American men. I know what
the media would have you think that and from my last conversation, well I can’t quite call him a man so I would
say boy would be enough to make you believe it as well. But the CDC (Center for Disease Control) wrote
an article regarding the myth of African American fatherhood that shed some
much needed positive light on our men: (http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/01/16/3175831/myth-absent-black-father/). Go to the article and read how engaged these
fathers are. Continue the research and
you will see that African American men are present and doing what is necessary
to take care of family and themselves. Men
of all races are holding it down!
I must say I know
several good men from my father, brothers and a few excellent men that I met
along the way. So ladies if you have a
good man, please affirm him and give him the love and respect that he
deserves. For the single ladies out
there, appreciate the good men in your families and who are in your close
circles. It is a gift to have them in
your lives!
Remember that song
by Heather Headley He Is? The course goes a little like this:
He is
The mind injector
The heart protector
The soul defender of anything I fear
The baby conceiver
The make me believer
The joy bringer
The love giver
He is
The dough increaser
The pleasure releser
The hard knocks knowler without the scars to show ya
The night school teacher
The good life preacher
The caretaker
The kiss craver
He is
The mind injector
The heart protector
The soul defender of anything I fear
The baby conceiver
The make me believer
The joy bringer
The love giver
He is
The dough increaser
The pleasure releser
The hard knocks knowler without the scars to show ya
The night school teacher
The good life preacher
The caretaker
The kiss craver
He is
My tribute to all
the good men out there!!!!
Until next time…
Enjoy the journey! I know I will!
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Oh I finished my third book Angel’s
War! It should be coming out
soon. This is a must read!!
