Ah
Valentine’s Day is coming. Hmm do I
dread it or do I embrace it this year with my new found love of singleness! I once
had a party on Valentine’s Day called the “Lonely Hearts” Valentine’s Day
party. A friend and I invited a few
people over and we played games, drank and ate.
We actually had a great time but man wasn’t that a negative title. Note to self… all negativity must go!
So
I think this year, I’m going to embrace Valentine’s Day especially since I’ve
decided to love my singleness. I’m going
to be my own VD date. I’m going to go
out to dinner – a nice dinner at that and have a good time with me. Ah but wait will I look like a lonely dufiss
going out to a nice restaurant on Valentine’s Day for dinner alone?
By the way why is
it that women are afraid to dine alone or go to a bar alone? Now let me just say that I dine alone all the
time. Being a writer, it’s cool to sit
and people watch under the guise of eating.
But Valentine’s Day is different right?
Wouldn’t it be like telling the world you are alone and lonely? Or would it tell the would that you are
confident, beautiful, and that you are so proud of your singleness that you
were able to go out on a date with yourself on Valentine’s Day?!
During my research
on the subject of eating alone I came across a few positives. The first and in my opinion the best positive
is the fact that people will view you as confident. Now there’s a way to go out to dinner
alone. You have to stroll in the place
like you own it and like you eat alone all the time. You can’t slink in there
and whisper that you want a table for one. You can’t look around nervously like
you hope no one will see you. You have
to look around confidently. Then you
dress the part. You have to look absolutely fabulous! Please don’t go to dinner
by yourself looking like you just rolled out of bed! That would be a sure way to remain
single. I think you’re getting the
picture.
The second
positive is you get all the attention.
This is truer when you put your big girl panties on and head out to the
bar by yourself. You know guys; they are
too shy and have huge egos. If they’re
going to get shot down they don’t want to have it done in front of all your
girlfriends!
Third, it builds
your self-esteem. You start to feel
empowered that you don’t have to have a girlfriend babysit you or a man on your
arm to enjoy a meal on your own. You
know, it’s an “I am woman hear me roar” kind of thing.
So back to
Valentine’s Day though, what’s a girl to do?! Should I do all the things I just
told you to do and sing the girl power anthem “I am woman hear me roar” and go
to dinner alone? Or should I wimp out and stay at home cause I don’t have a
boo?
Let me know what
you think. Holla at a sista….
Catch you next
month…
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